![]() I accidentally fell asleep naked a couple weeks ago, and when I woke up I was horrified. I don’t think he ever did, so why would he start now. He now claims that he loves my body, but I struggle to believe him. This is all good, but I still struggle with poor body image. My husband has been praying for a stronger marriage, and to be a better husband, and I’ve been trying to believe in his love (which is a struggle for me). Happy for those wives, but sad that my husband didn’t feel that way about me.įast forward through a lot of nonsense, and we have finally started to heal and grow. Reading marriage blogs and comments from men about how much they love their wives bodies, even after childbirth, made me so sad. ![]() (He never said he didn’t like my body, but I took his silence as complete disgust). I’m a very healthy weight, so I never understood just which parts of me he found so offensive. Change clothes quickly, facing away, or better yet – behind closed doors. Sex with the lights out so he didn’t have to suffer by looking at my body. I took all of this as a sure sign that I was repulsive, disgusting, and worthless. If I tried to sleep naked, he’d worry what if one of the kids came in? What if there was a house fire and I had to leave in a hurry? We went through a long dry spell sexually (his stress issues) and my naked body didn’t seem to even catch his eye. My husband used to have major hang ups with nudity. So I filled in the blanks with my own thoughts, and that’s caused a lot of hurt feelings. I was 19 when we married, and there is so much I never knew! My husband is introverted, and so he never said much or explained anything. There have been SO many misunderstandings between my husband and I over the past 20 years of marriage. Keelie, I’ve struggled with this for years. Your health is important and I just want to encourage you to keep up the good work! Need some tips on feeling more comfortable naked? Check this out- How to Feel Comfortable Undressed In Front of Your I think it’s great that you are trying to improve yourself by eating right and exercising. Be undressed, lights on, looking at one another…how scary, but how deeply intimate… I encourage you to work towards that though. I know it can be very hard to be undressed in front of your spouse for some people. You will have a much easier time getting in the mood if you and your spouse are lying naked in the bed together. However, if you go without clothing, your mind knows that nakedness around your lover can lead to sex. If you put on comfy pj’s, your mind is going to be in a relaxed state, because you are telling yourself you are turning in for the night. What you wear has a lot to do with getting your mind prepared for what you are about to do. They aren’t going to compliment your flannels quite the way they will your birthday suit. If have a spouse that really enjoys looking at you without your clothes on, it can make you feel great about the way you look. Walking around without your clothes on in front of your lover can boost your confidence if you let it. I know that the model in the pictures always look really amazing, but you know as well as I do that pj’s never look as good as they feel. There are very few genuinely attractive pajama sets on the market. ![]() You and your lover will have to get undressed which adds one more thing to being ready for one another. If you are getting in bed with your clothes on, then it makes it much more difficult to ease into having sex. There is just something about coming to bed fully accessible to one another. Makes You More Availableįor a few weeks, I decided to wear a shirt to bed and I noticed that it really made me less available for intimacy. I thought it would be good to write about this again, because I’m even more convinced that it does great things for you and your sex life. Someone asked whether or not there are benefits to sleeping with clothes on and I know, I have already talked about how sleeping without clothes on can be beneficial to your marriage.
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